Posted by Partlycloudy on November 21, 2008, at 7:05:18
In reply to Can a person just melt into a puddle from stress?, posted by Tabitha on November 21, 2008, at 3:59:30
Aw, Tabitha, as they say - I can Feel Your Pain. My sage advice is to not fight this right now, because you're just gonna feel worse than before. You're in a sucky place AND you're blaming yourself for not being able to behave better, master your emotions, and coolly let off steam as you would most like to. Instead, it comes out all messy and public and we feel embarrassed (that how I end up feeling, anyway).
You said something pretty important, though: "I hate that I don't notice I object to things til after the fact." This is something that I've been working on for the last year and have been talking about a bit on the boards here. Trying to bring my reaction to upsetting things a little bit closer to the actual event. It's a goal, and not something I'm able to achieve overnight - but it definitely helps to bring me more in touch with my emotions and less at odds with them.
For now, the practice is simply to notice what you're feeling, and not to change it, and definitely not to judge it, as tempting as that may be. You're feeling rotten and unhappy with your "work face" - for now just sit with that feeling.
take care
pc
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