Posted by JayMac on November 1, 2008, at 15:31:49
In reply to Re: Is this an example of a dual relationship? » JayMac, posted by Nadezda on November 1, 2008, at 9:10:21
Nadezda:
>I don't think it's become at dual relationshipYeah, I agree.
>Perhaps what you're questioning is whether you're using this interest to mask other, perhaps less positive emotions, or to avoid having to confront your feelings.
Wow, I haven't thought about that!!!
>Sometimes idealization covers up competitiveness or even more negative feelings-- or is a way of trying to construct a special relationship, either as a way of creating trust, or of avoiding the sense of lack of trust.
I think you are on to someting. I do think the idealization could be covering up my angry towards her (anger towards my mom).
>If she's gotten out of kilter with you, I feel confident that she'll know how to right the relationship and steer it back to more solid ground. The two of u ou'll handle this, though-- especially because, you seem very self=aware and committed to the process-- and are already aware of this potential pitfall. It's not bad in itself-- but is a matter of degree and context.Totally, a matter of degree/context. I do ultimately trust her. I'm just having a tough time right now. I feel like I'm on a pivotal place with her.
> I'm not sure why you suddenly wanted to tear your T down.
I have no idea. I told her in an email. Not sure where it came from, just an internal, sudden feeling I had this Thursday.
>I hope you're feeling better.
Thank you! Thanks for your insight!
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