Posted by stellabystarlight on October 22, 2008, at 16:03:34
In reply to Make a Choice, posted by antigua3 on October 22, 2008, at 13:49:43
Oh, you didn't literally mean walk and hold hands. That image was heavenly. My little girl hates boundaries - she wishes they could go for a walk and have fun, and enjoy an ice cream cone together. lol.
I'm feeling very needy in therapy right now, so I would choose #1. I want him to let my little girl talk without having any expectations of moving forward or making a progress. A month ago, he tried to "walk" with my little girl, and she ended up getting upset with him and left. She felt pressured and didn't feel safe, but, he did bring her back. I have difficult time sharing special moments between us, but I'll say he brought my little girl back by tenderly putting a blanket on her, and holding her with his knowing eyes. I'll always treasure that moment. The sweet caring he showed meant more to my little girl than any words he could have said. I'm discovering that my little girl makes the most progress when she feels cared about and cared for.
Thanks for the great post, Antigua. I'm quite upset with him right now, so it was good to think about the positive aspects of our relationship.
Stellabystarlight
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