Posted by lucie lu on October 7, 2008, at 16:02:04
In reply to I miss my T, posted by lemonaide on October 7, 2008, at 14:56:37
> Today I had my 2nd T and it was okay, but she kinda scared me off. And now I miss my T, the old one, he was a safe place. Now the unsureness of the new T makes me feel insecure. I have so many mixed feelings right now.
Lemonaide,
You are used to deep connections with your old T - this new one needs time! You've only had two sessions. As I'm sure you are familiar from your own training, relationships take time to develop. There will be missteps, misattunements, readjustments, until you get on the same track. But she said all the right things, didn't she, when you told her why you had come? Why not wait it out, seek common ground with her? Obviously it's hard to say yet whether she is a good T or not, but she certainly seemed responsive to your needs and history, and it seems like she is on your side. That seems promising to me. I'd suggest just being patient and let the process happen. I think maybe you're just gun-shy by now, but don't let it derail what could be a positive therapeutic experience with her.
Just a thought, your last two Ts have been men. How do you feel having a woman T instead of a man? Does that feel somehow uncomfortable?
Lucie
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