Posted by Nadezda on October 3, 2008, at 17:22:05
In reply to Re: Do you know where your T....?, posted by JayMac on October 3, 2008, at 12:59:47
I agree with Lucie lu. Those were incredibly difficult and courageous things to say and the intensity of saying them and hearing your T;s response must have taken a lot out of you. I know you wanted and needed something to help you and maybe to answer and even make the feelings better. And it's hard to deal with there not being any immediate answer or cure for them. Over time, I"m sure you'll find an answer-- or way of connecting to your T-- that will make these feelings bearable and will eventually assuage them.
But just starting the conversation is such a remarkable accomplishment. I'm sure your T also wishes there were a way to piggyback over the time that the experience of knowing one another deeply takes. Just try to remember that that will make a huge difference.
These feelings probably will wax and wane depending on other things, especially the optimism and sense of connection that you feel at any moment in other parts of your life. It's a process-- but the fact that you could be so open and take such a risk says to me that you'll make great progress and won't stay in this place for too long. It's just incredibly hard to talk about these things.
And I also agree with Lucie Lu about your taking care of yourself--you need to relax and restore yourself after such a difficult day.
I hope you can feel good about what you've done.
Nadezda
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