Posted by Nadezda on September 24, 2008, at 10:07:27
In reply to T is ignoring me...but I guess I deserve it., posted by Amanda29 on September 23, 2008, at 18:20:15
Hi, Amanda.
I'm sure you don't deserve to be ignored. Maybe you T is hoping that you can contain and work though some of the feelings before the session?
It's okay to be irritated with your T-- even after a week. I can see why you wouldn't want to yell-- the wrath of Amanda might be better kept for a more awful transgression than those of last week. There's nothing wrong with bringing up your issue of not wanting to be challenged in that way, though.
It's possible to say that you're angry or annoyed about something in a very effective way without raising your voice-- or even using hurtful language. Probably your T will understand that his strategy wasn't well-thought out, if you just say that you didn't understand what he was doing-- and you'd hope that in the future, he would find another way of challenging you. Also, maybe he should find out where you are emotionally before challenging you-- because it may not be the right time.
Sometimes, though, it's important to choose the people we confide in-- particularly when it comes to what you say in therapy-- some people feel more threatened and exposed by being talked about with a T-- so it's worth being careful about relaying that information. I hope things have calmed down with your family, too.
Anyway, I hope your session will go well, and you can both express your dismay and move on to some of the issues you wanted to discuss.
Nadezda
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