Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 25, 2008, at 10:26:59
In reply to Re: T: Lying on top of me!-Bizarre stuff » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on July 25, 2008, at 9:15:52
> That does sound odd. Does he seem to be moving toward the crumbling of his defenses? Have things been getting more intimate lately? Things have been moving towards more intimacy for the past FOUR years.
Verbally....and....physically.
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> My intuitive feel would have been that he wouldn't be overly willing to bend boundaries at a convention full of his peers....but he WAS....as in, dancing with me.....that he isn't willing to break in the privacy of the therapy room. I'm sure he would have liked to ask you to dance. He said that if he had "found me, he would have asked me to dance."
And....he spent a half an hour LOOKING for me (?); I was surprised he admitted that.
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> But how on earth did he come to lie on top of you when he won't even hug you? Sometimes I will playfully bump into him, and he takes it from there....he has pinned my arms behind my back, pushed me onto the couch as part of that playful stuff.It's hard for me to picture a graceful situation to get from hands off to lying on top.
Exactly.
I keep having these unpleasant mental images involving some sort of lunge and grab. You mentioned wrestling. Was he trying to teach you some holds? Self defense?
No, this was playful physical touch/jostling.
If so, perhaps he should leave that to someone who is a professional in that field if he doesn't want to give mixed messages.
He has given me 100's and 100's of mixed messages.
He told me once: "Bring it on." I didn't.....the amazing thing is the miracle is:
I haven't acted on my feelings in SPITE of all of his come-ons. I wonder how many human beings could withstand (loving someone), and not acting on their feelings, even tho someone is leading them on...bigtime.
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