Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 24, 2008, at 13:27:13
In reply to Re: Are you in love/transference with your T? » sassyfrancesca, posted by stellabystarlight on July 24, 2008, at 10:02:33
> May I ask how old you and your T are? I am 61; he is 55......People guess my age at 17-20 years younger (little ego there, LOL)
Reading your posts has me thinking he is very selfish and has a lot of problems of his own. Oh, yes; he has told me personal stuff... Has he helped you in anyway?
Yes, for what I went to him for originally; the church debacle; he was amazing; went with me to the meetings and was my champion/Knight in Shining........(www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com); when it was over (I had gotten a divorce after 31 years of abuse); I stayed with him, then fell in love with him.
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> Have you told him how painful and confusing this is for you? No...and I know I should; I just don't want to do that right now. I know it is so unhealthy. He said once, "I don't like to play with fire." People are what they DO, not what they say; he HAS been playing with fire for years.inh I'm trying to get my T to actively work on analyzing my feelings for him to help me out of "transference".
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> If you can't leave him, maybe you can see another t help you with it. I have spoken with an attorney who is ALSO on the State Board of Ethics, etc........and I would feel like betraying him (which I realize is NOT rationale). I feel overwhelmed by so much in my life.That's what I'm doing now...not perfectly...but trying to anyway. I am proud of you!
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> I'm sorry you've been in this situation for so long.Thank you for your kindness.
Hugs, Sassy
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