Posted by rskontos on July 7, 2008, at 14:48:42
In reply to Re: My therapist thinks my situation is hopeless, posted by muffled on July 7, 2008, at 14:19:51
Dinah,
I agree with Muffled. You know the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. You can not make your mother want the help that is available to her. You father did what he did because he wanted help for her but there are limits to what is to be expected of you with that request. When you try to deal with someone that doesn't listen as she is there is nothing else you can do except as muffled suggested to lure her away clean it up and present it after the deed is done. And say I did what is necessary, I am sorry you don't approve.
Then leave it at that.Phillipa and muffled are right you can't make yourself upset and hurt over this. She is your mother and responsible for her own actions just like you are responsible for yours.
She has made this the mess it is. Either leave her to deal with the aftermath, fool her and clean it up, or say I have done all I can and like the Kenny Rogers song says Know when to fold the cards and walk away.
Good luck, but don't make yourself sick. or bleed your heart over this.
rsk
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