Posted by antigua3 on June 19, 2008, at 14:39:38
In reply to Re: Just be prepared, posted by Happyflower on June 17, 2008, at 16:54:09
I couldn't get past it; that's why I went to see him. I was stuck in this agony of longing to see him, that I now understand was based on feelings from my past. But I had to break that cord with him because it was so very, very painful for me.
Did seeing him break the cord? Eventually, after some really hard work with my regular T, I was better off. But it hurt so much to have him just sit there and limit himself to "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." I wanted him to take some accountability for his actions, but that wasn't going to happen. So I worked with my T about why that was so important, and of course it led me back to wanting my abuser to take responsibility, which he never did.
Like I said, in retrospect I'm glad I did it, but it was very difficult.
antigua
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