Posted by rskontos on May 22, 2008, at 10:29:49
In reply to Re: Therapist I guess Kind of Fired me As I don't, posted by Phillipa on May 21, 2008, at 19:21:04
Phillipa, It isn't like I have great experience with therapists, but from my point of view, which is limited, i found that I do what I do for me. I make the steps I make to find answers for me. So do the homework for you and demand she remember for you to get the results you want. Not for her to give you validity or anything other than be an instrument to help you toward your goal. And maybe somewhere along the way you two might meet in the middle. She can't help with all the answers, they are I am afraid locked somewhere inside your head, all she can do is facilitate. She is in fact a tool of sorts but you have to help her. So if she isn't helping because she forgets then say hey you told me to do this and I did it now what does it mean. I have had to call my p-doc on the carpet for things he does that bother me and he has surprised me. Maybe she can do the same for you. But she can't do it alone either. I have found therapy is lonely. But that is part of it if you don't demand them, the T, to be involved. Expect them to be there and they will if you say hey I need more from you. Know what you want, but don't look for all the answers from them, you do have more answers than you think you do. Don't be afraid to look for them.
Good luck, I think you deserve more, and need to speak up to her and ask for it.
rsk
poster:rskontos
thread:830108
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20080508/msgs/830485.html