Posted by Nadezda on May 1, 2008, at 13:41:43
In reply to Re: I can't seem to stop being angry...., posted by Angela2 on May 1, 2008, at 10:28:59
I've been in a DBT group for a few weeks, and they have a lot of ideas that I find helpful.
This idea is more in the crisis management section(which is where they are), rather than the overall parts, but it seems crucial, which is, radical acceptance. It involves acknowledging the reality of a situation, without denying or fighting it, although without condoning it, but while resolving to do the best (the most effective) thing within the situation.
Of course, they have lots of immediate suggestion that I can put in later, if you're interested, but a lot of them are devoted to changing physiology-- like cold water, exercise, a warm bath, focusing on breathing, especially if you're also anxious-- but as a way of reorienting your mind.
They do have countless things-- in the categories of distracting, improving the moment. One of the key things is that different techniques work for different people-- so they say you should experiment with the things that appeal to you-- and see which ones take the edge off your anger, or help you to see the situation in a different, more accepting ( in their sense of the radical acceptance, not just going along with anything) way.
It's a combination of using small techniques to somewhat calm and relieve your anger, and then working on accepting and reframing, and acting within the situation in the most useful, realistic, and full way.
Nadezda
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