Posted by Dinah on January 21, 2008, at 9:13:54
In reply to Re: needing someone » frida, posted by MissK on January 21, 2008, at 6:46:24
I think that's quite true. We're all different so our needs differ.
For me, there are a lot of golden chains (not prison, more like jewelry) that bind me to others. There's love, and want, and caring, and need. Need is the one that harnesses me closest to someone else. My issues in general are not in overattaching, they're more in attachments drifting away. With a few very important exceptions of course. Since I like feeling attached, and closely attached, I like to need someone. When the need eases, there is still caring, but it doesn't keep me as close.
This is all on my side of course. My need doesn't keep him closer. It keeps me closer. And as I need less I drift away. Maybe my caring isn't quite strong enough. I don't know.
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