Posted by MissK on January 17, 2008, at 20:42:29
In reply to New to Therapy, New T - Please Help (long), posted by Phoenix1 on January 17, 2008, at 9:01:46
>So I have had 2 sessions with a Psychologist specializing in CBT and IPT (Inter Personal Therapy).
> I'm not a good candidate for CBT apparently
Why did you choose this particular therapist?
>For example, yesterday we talked about relationships, and how I have essentially no friends
What was his response and did you find it helped, or not that much.
>But after both sessions I went home and cried about things
This will happen as you process your experience of talking about your issues. I call it therapy hangover, and I will usually bring up what continues to bother me from one session to the next.
>He says he feels like it is more like an interview than therapy because I'm not opening up.
I agree with others that this is not very sympathetic on his part.
>So I guess I'm asking if I should know by now if he's going to be a good therapist fit for me by now?
I knew in the first session that my T was able and competent to deal with my issues and in teh pace I presented them just in how she responded to what I was saying and what she offered by way of psychological explanations and connections of what I was dealing with.
I didn't look for any therapy speciality per se. I looked in the phone book for psychologists. I eventually called the person who would be my T, explained what I was looking for in terms of what my problems were and what I wanted to do in therapy and asked her if she did the kind of thing I was asking. She said yes and it's worked out.
Do you think you explained well enough to this T what you want to do in therapy? Has he explained well enough to you what it is that he does? Do they match.
I might give it another session or two, but if after that you still don't feel like you are getting a response that is helpful, I would say look elsewhere. It may just be that what you want and need to do in therapy and what he does as therapy don't match.
Good luck, and keep in mind you will process alot of thoughts and feelings in between sessions that may make you think you are getting worse than better. It does get better.
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