Posted by raisinb on January 16, 2008, at 13:15:43
In reply to Re: I've been enjoying this article., posted by Dinah on January 16, 2008, at 12:21:54
I think accepting--and soliticing, and learning from--negative feedback is important. Even when my T and I are in the worst place possible, the fact that she'll hear how much things suck helps.
But I know from my own work (teaching) that practice and feedback are only part of it. There's something else--something I could call "self" or "love" or both--that makes you want to *do* the practice and hear the feedback. The moments I'm best, in the classroom, are the moments I'm being the most myself. And that makes me love it, because something about it is vital to me. And so I want to be better, to hear feedback--even if it hurts--so that I can keep growing.
I think the authors of that article are doing great work, but I wonder whether the quality they're talking about can be created in people who don't have it? What if the mediocre Ts just don't love it enough? What if their true selves are opened up by something else entirely?
Interesting discussion!
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