Posted by happyflower on January 14, 2008, at 22:35:01
In reply to Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + rant*, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 12:12:31
All I know is that being on the boards, were mostly supportive when I had my transference issues, but I also allowed it to fed into the over importance of the T. I think this is something I learned from here, and I jumped on the wagon and started to want my T to be something he couldn't be.
Now that I am in therapy with a very caring T, but who has very defined boundaries, I don't miss him on vacations, he has had 2 already, and I see him nnweekly. We deal with the therapeutic relationship if there is a misunderstanding, but he doesn't pretend to be my father, lover, child or anything else but my T, the relationship isn't or main focus. I rarely think of him outside of therapy, I am thinking about me and what I need to do to recover, not overanaylizing every move and word my T does. There is a huge difference now. I have made more progress in 5 months than I have in 2 1/2 years of therapy. The difference is my main problem isn't within the therapy relationship.
I think on Babble boards there contains a "special" group of people who are unique to therapy itself. A lot of people don't think about therapy so much, aren't on message boards, and they still progress, but I wonder if makes one less dependent on the T and the importance of the future of the relationship. I believe for me, babble taught me how to be dependent on my old T and to analyze every aspect of what happens in the therapy hour. Now I tend to do that less, but yet I spend about 75% less time here now. Maybe it is just a coincidence.
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