Posted by Dinah on January 13, 2008, at 22:58:12
In reply to Re: Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + ran » annierose, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 22:38:24
Sometimes it isn't that complicated.
We post things here because we feel safely understood here.
Then when someone comments on a topic we just posted about, like for example my post in creating a relationship with my therapist or forever therapy, it can make us feel like maybe we shouldn't have posted it. Or even thought it.
And even though we know that not all people think our take on therapy is correct, and even though we know that our respect for whatever type of therapy might be helpful to any given person isn't necessarily shared, we feel a bit exposed. Like our dresses blew up to show our undies.
And even if we have confidence in our paths and our choices, we can, for a moment, get a momentary urge to yank our skirts down. And to defend our paths and our choices.
And if we're struggling with our choices, we might feel like yanking our skirts down and crawling in a hole and never posting anything so intimate and personal again on a public place.
Of course, by we I mean me. I can't really speak for anyone else.
So I'm working on accepting the paradox that appreciating and respecting the paths of others means appreciating and respecting the fact that they don't need to appreciate or respect mine. And that I don't need to convince them of that.
poster:Dinah
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