Posted by frida on January 13, 2008, at 13:05:39
In reply to Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + rant*, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 12:12:31
hi..
i know i won't make much sense because i'm not feeling very well...
but i wanted to say that i view the T relationship quite differently I guess..i don't think it's just that we share intimate things and then we leave, and that's it.
My T has told me that her life has been changed as well, i think it's much deeper than that.
I know she thinks of me outside the T room, she reads a book that reminds her of something we 've talked about, or she watches a movie...or experiences something...and she tells me that...
i guess it all depends on the T, patient and what brings you to T in the first place...
in my case, c.s.a..she truly changed my life completely and gave me something i had never had in my life. And she acknowledges it's been powerful to her as well and she is truly committed to our work together.i am sure she'll stay in my life in some way forever.
maybe in the future i'll see her less frequently, (not ready for that now), but i know that we'll be part of each other's lives somehow, fortunately.
I will always want to share the important things in life with her..and she has told me that we'll be part of each other's lives, that she'll always be there.i agree that we've read a lot about unhealthy situations....i think it has to do with the T and some conflict in boundaries or something.
I consider myself lucky to have the perfect T for me. i wish everyone had that luck.there are conflicts in the T relationship and i've been through very painful things in relation to my T as well...but fortunately we've worked through those things. I think it's inevitable for that to happen in a human, honest, caring relationship.
anyway..thank you for sharing your views, i agree that it shouldn't be *that* painful , i think it gets so bad when the T isn't willing to work through these things or get really involved.
thanks ,
Frida
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