Posted by widget on January 4, 2008, at 10:45:01
In reply to Re: sexual element of 'transference' with therapis » widget, posted by Bodhisattva on January 4, 2008, at 9:42:52
Thank you for your insight. I was thinking I might need another therapist, more adept at discussing the full-range of the human experience. There has been no other are that he has not easily delved into or brought up. In all of this time, he has seemed to avoid the sexual. Well, of course, the sexual is involved. And, I thought psychotherapists were trained to expect and even welcome this! Yes, I am quite attracted to him.
At times, he has said, in relation to the "transference", "I'm not your father." To which I reply, "I don't want you to be my father." And, he nods his head, acknowledging what is beginning to feel like the unspeakable! This sex thing is just sitting there between us and I'm surprised he doesn't want to deal with it just as a matter of the analysis. And, honestly, it is NOT going away. It's just asquiring layers and layers of more meaning because it must be ignored. So, do you think I should be the one to bring in up, yet again,next time? It is scary for me, too, but that is why I am in analysis or psychotherapy. To face the scary. It was at the end of our session yesterday that he said "that's something we should deal with next time." I am tempted to just see what happens if I say no more but I'm afraid it will be nothing. Meantime, I feel cheated by the avoidance and, also, confused. And, I am just being honest, too. Have I just seen too many movies or doesn't this get discussed in therapy? Thanks so much. Widget
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