Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2008, at 23:26:36
In reply to I'll try not to whine... (triggers..?), posted by JoniS on December 31, 2007, at 15:20:23
(At least I hope not...)
This sounds so like my therapist's absence. He is so awful at emails that I finally emailed him to please not email me any more.
So of course, he initiated an email a while after. Sigh. I guess he didn't realize that wasn't a storming off request. It was a "you're awful at email and you're upsetting me!" request.
He signs his full name. Can you believe it? He never uses his full name, not in person, not on the telephone, never. It's like he thinks I get a lot of emails from "first name" coming from his email address. Geesh. And the contents were along the same lines. Very stiff and formal. Yes, duty. Blech.
I can understand why you'd rather not set yourself up for that. I never would again.
It does hurt to love more than you are loved. My therapist hates it when I say that. (I substitute "care" for his sake.) He says you can't quantify that. But only the one who loves less can say that, I think.
Maybe it's ok to cry about that? Maybe it's ok to hurt and hurt and cry about that? Because it does hurt and it's worthy of tears. Tears honor how it feels. And I find it easier to accept a feeling once I honor it.
But that's me, and I think I think oddly about things sometimes.
poster:Dinah
thread:803451
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