Posted by star008 on December 12, 2007, at 18:55:09
In reply to Re: How my Ikids are doing..)))MUFFLED » star008, posted by muffled on December 12, 2007, at 18:30:04
just curious muffled. where do you live?? I am in ohio.. far east of cleveland.. freezing my ..ss off. yeah,, the 2 for 1 deal would work out fine.. just lots of kids!!!
I am letting my T lead me in this one. He tries to find out what the kids are thinking.. sometimes I just can't let them out. He asks me questions like "how to do you think you can make her feel safe"? gag me. I have no clue. Sometimes I have to tell him what we need to do. Like dealing with the one who gets mean first.. It isn't safe for anyone with her feeling angry and mean. I wouldn't find a different one either.. would take me years to trust.
I know the replusive feeling.. It is her neediness and it how she makes you feel yuck..But you wouldn't find any child on the street repulsive, would you?? I did feel that but don't now. No, none of it is her fault.. None of it at all..A child is never at fault.
we have trouble parenting ourselves cuz it feels so yuck.. We dont love ourselves the way we love our kids. Yes, my sons are great.. Nice kids and doing well..How the h..ll I pulled that one off. I had nothing to go on but I did the things that weren't done for me and let them know I was alwys there to fight their battles for them. I tried not to do the things I that I hated when I was a kid adn do the things I wish were done for me.. There were rough times but I did it and so can you.
>>>punch in the arm<<<<<<<<
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