Posted by rskontos on October 10, 2007, at 17:31:51
In reply to Re: those letters » DAisym, posted by pegasus on October 10, 2007, at 10:12:19
Peg, yes we did handle it in person. It was tough and took a while to work through but we finally have gotten to a nice place. My sister had more memories than I do and it helps me. It hurt me to think I thought I was helping her but she saw it differently. It made me realize that while we have good intentions they are not always seen that way. It helped her to voice her frustrations as well. We both now know that each of us tried to survive a difficult childhood the best way we could and we had different roles. She understand better now that she is a mom.
Communicate the way you feel the most comfortable so that you get said what you want to say. To let the past go and to let your sister know how you feel and how you would like a relationship with her. My sister and I have now progressed to just sisters. I no longer try to parent her. We have grown and you and your sister can too it will just take time and communication from both. Hopefully can hear you. I didn't hear my sister at first, it too time and I had to really listen to her. I am glad I did! rk
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