Posted by happyflower on October 10, 2007, at 9:45:26
In reply to Re: My friend who is a T » happyflower, posted by RealMe on October 7, 2007, at 13:05:50
I think you are an amazing person RealMe. To see yourself and know it is was best you weren't doing therapy with clients, well that takes guts to do what is best for you and future clients. A lot of T's should do this when things are not right in their personal life, but a lot of times their ego's get in the way and it is devestating to their clients. I am hoping to get all the ghosts out of my closet before I even get into grad school.
One of my prof. who is a T, said that when he was going through his divorse, he didn't see clients going through divorse on either side of it, because he knew he couldn't be objective. I think it takes a strong person to decide this.
I think all T's have some areas that they are not comfortable working with. My current T doesn't work with DID, because he becomes too emotionally involved. He told me of what happened to him years ago and I can see why he doesn't work in that area because as a T, he is extra sensitive. For me that is just what I need for a T and to see a T being, for my future. He agrees so many T's lose their sensitive nature because they have to protect themselves mentally. But it is better for him to protect himself from certain areas of work, then to lose all of his sensitivity. It takes a great T to see his faults and area's he isn't effective in, and try to do the work he is best at.
He used to do age regressing therapy, and he said it was so hard to see client on the floor just wrapped in so much pain. He said he doesn't think he would still be a T if he still continued to do that. He said he felt so much of the pain and it was so hard to separate it from the client. He said you would have to be a cold hearted bastard to not feel the pain but it was almost too much for him. He felt like such a bastard for "causing" the pain in a sense. But he needed to let the client get all the pain out of them. But it was very draining and he is glad there are other ways to work in this area.
So RealMe, I see it as a strengh that you are taking care of yourself and doing your own therapy and postponing doing therapy with others until you get your stuff straighten out. Just thing once you get to the other side of the mountain, how strong of a T you will really be.
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