Posted by Dinah on October 7, 2007, at 15:41:41
In reply to Re: What is the silver lining of child abuse? » sunnydays, posted by happyflower on October 7, 2007, at 14:23:25
Are you saying that your two choices were to find a silver lining in child abuse, or to argue that child abuse is the child's invention?
That doesn't sound in keeping with what I understand is being taught about child abuse in universities today, so I'm a bit surprised.
I suppose there is a difference between trying to come up with positive aspects to something that has already happened to someone, and saying that very negative behaviors have silver linings. The latter seems almost to be saying that it isn't all bad because something good comes out of it. I think that goes a bit far for child abuse. Yeah, there are kids who make it through, but there are lots of kids that don't. Not all Hansels and Gretels make it out of the forest.
But if you've experienced anything, no matter how horrific, and come through to the other side, it can be said that you learned something valuable from making it through. People who almost die often find a new purpose to life. People who have lost a loved one to violence often dedicate themselves to making sure it doesn't happen again.
I guess I don't see a silver lining in violent death or near death experience. The good comes out of what people make of their experiences, not the experience itself.
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