Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2007, at 10:14:31
In reply to :-( :-( Dunno WHAT to do***SEX trigger***:-(, posted by muffled on October 6, 2007, at 10:03:21
There's hope, Muffled. There really is. I never thought there was hope for me in that area, but there was. I saw a sex therapist who helped some, and my therapist helped more. And I was able to be honest with my husband in a light and nonthreatening way.
I don't know what it is that would work best for you. Was it always like this? Or did it get worse recently? Would it help to do things to see it as part of your husband, who you care about? I'll bet there are exercises to do that? Would it help to get to know it when there's no intercourse in the near future? It might not be scary then. It might even be funny and vulnerable and a bit scared itself. I'll bet there are ways to do that too.
It's not hopeless at all. But a sex therapist might help, if your therapist isn't up to the challenge.
poster:Dinah
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