Posted by Daisym on September 20, 2007, at 0:39:14
In reply to Re: my counseling program, posted by pegasus on September 19, 2007, at 11:01:52
It is complicated, isn't it? But since the unconscious is stimulated by everything said and unsaid, I think knowing yourself and your buttons is really important for a therapist. And I think that personal experience with some of the "boundary" issues creates more sensitivity and thought about how each individual therapist might want to work. What we learn in books and classes often feels very different in the real world.
It is kind of like what happens before people become parents. It is "easy" to think to yourself, "my kids will never do that" or "I will never lose control like that person did" but in actuality, most of us have moments as parents we would never have imagined. It all changes when you are really in it.
And while I completely agree that a good therapist will keep their own issues out of the room as much as possible, sometimes a shared experience is helpful too. Not too long ago my therapist shared with me that when he was in therapy, he wanted to be special to his therapist too. He was trying to normalize my experience.
I used to be under the impression that every therapist had to go through therapy. Apparently that isn't true anymore. Interesting...
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