Posted by RealMe on September 17, 2007, at 22:03:48
In reply to why do we have to fight all the time?, posted by B2chica on September 17, 2007, at 13:55:20
One thing is for sure; we are STRONG for what we have been through and survived. And, so because we are strong, We CAN handle it. Others who have not been what we have been through could not handle it. I know this isn't much, but it makes me feel good sometimes to know I am strong. My therapist reminds me of this from time to time. This does not mean, of course, that I don't feel like a small girl again being harmed by the adults in my life, but that little girl was strong too. And I think you are too. This also means we want to scream sometimes and say enough for now. I know that feeling too. Is it fair that we have to go through this torment? No. And yet, we will be even stronger in the long run.
I remember learning and even telling men especially that to be vulnerable is to be strong. And it is true. We were vulnerable as children and survived. We are adults now and think "best not let myself be vulnerable." But this is exactly what we have to learn to be again but in a way to recognize if hurt is around the corner. It is true that to be vulnerable can hurt (from a cruel word for example). But to not allow oneself to be vulnerable is to deny an intimate relationship. I am still working on this myself.
RealMe
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