Posted by JoniS on August 20, 2007, at 15:11:52
In reply to Re: Lonely and needing a cure, posted by DAisym on August 19, 2007, at 21:23:29
Daisy
Thanks so much for your reply it was helpful. Knowing that other people have similar struggles forces me to accept my feelings better and to go a little easier on myself.
... I get all caught up in thinking, "who do I think I am to have these feelings for him? He probably thinks to himself,'ewww'" It hurts less to think that he can't entertain the idea ever because of his ethics, not because I'm ugly, or damaged, or oozing neediness....
The only way I can deal with this is pretty much avoid thinking about it, so that's not really dealing with it, is it?
I've been going with the assumption that I can allow myself to feel my feelings for him and eventually they will change [and I'll get stronger and be able to "self soothe"], but they haven't. Then I go to the fat, ugly blah blah blah garbage thinking.
I guess I'm just repeating myself.
I really appreciate your reply.
poster:JoniS
thread:777153
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