Posted by muffled on August 19, 2007, at 23:51:51
In reply to Do we actually know one another at all?, posted by Honore on August 18, 2007, at 12:11:22
> This question really has oppressed me last night and today. I realized that I didn't know someone here at all-- that my image of him/her was so partial and naive as to be misleading to myself, and potentially leaving me vulnerable to being unexpectedly (but actually not at all unexpectedly) hurt or surprised by a change in his/her seeming feelings about me. I've had intimations of this in the past, but I pushed them aside because otherwise how can one even be here-- if everything is subject to doubt and confusion?
**Noone really knows anybody anywhere for the most part...
We tend to put up a 'front' to all but those select few, or none at all... that we 'trust'.
> I wonder if there's anything here that we can trust-- even if no one violates our anonymity or is uncivil to us in a formal way.**I think we just have to go by what we see, and that is all. But keep our eyes open, and keep basic safety in place.
My T said, that she would try not to hurt me, but she could not guarantee that she never would, cuz despite our best efforts, we sometimes hurt those we care about.
So I try to think the best of others until proven otherwise. And I also keep in mind that we all have our 'moments'.
So.....
I am still here.
I try to be careful.
I hope I don't get hurt.
But there are just no guarantees in this life...
No guarantees bout anything...
So I try to look for the good, keep away from the bad.
Hope you can feel better bout this Honore.
I value your contributions here.
Muffled
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