Posted by slugdoo on August 10, 2007, at 10:08:11
In reply to Re: Pain, posted by DAisym on August 9, 2007, at 22:54:31
Perhaps you don't have to *do* anything with this hurt except to just acknowledge it as legitimate grief and let yourself cry. Separation is hard, even when it is the right thing to do. We grieve for what was good and we grieve for all the unspoken fantasies. And we grieve for the part of ourself we gave to this other, trusted person.
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Wow, Daisy this is so true, thank you for saying that, it is exactly how i feel too, I am grieving the loss.> Grief does eventually ease off. I hope you can find ways to soothe yourself and try to keep yourself in the company of others. I understand the need to stay in bed all day. I also know that I never feel better doing that. Doing things helps, even if it is unpacking and organizing.
Yeah, this is what my T would say too, to do something, it sometimes help, but sometimes we just need to stay in bed. I really appreciate your words to Jammer, it is helping me feel okay for crying my eyes out.
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