Posted by sunnydays on June 27, 2007, at 15:16:21
In reply to Re: Need? Anyone??? » muffled, posted by DAisym on June 27, 2007, at 13:49:58
One of the things I struggle with is the difference between a need and want. What if I think I NEED therapy but the reality is I really only WANT it?
**** Then you're still allowed to have it! My T and I talk about that same idea of a toddler who is always looking back to make sure it's mother is there to support it. He thinks I have a hard time trusting the attachment because I didn't get enough validation and experience that my mother would be there if I looked back. Didn't help that she specifically told me at times that she wanted to leave...
But your T likes you, and he's not going to leave you. I know that doesn't help a whole lot, but I'm of the belief that if I keep hearing that eventually it will sink in and become engrained in my brain, effectively overwriting the old messages from my mother.
Hopefully you can find some peace around this. I know it can be terribly hard. But it will happen, just stick with it.
sunnydays
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