Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2007, at 8:33:55
In reply to Bringing spouse to my therapist, posted by canadagirl on April 21, 2007, at 20:12:53
I've had both good and bad experiences with it, even with the same husband and therapist.
The last time was about a specific situation, and my therapist helped a lot. He knew my husband through my descriptions of him as well as through his own briefer contacts with him, and he understood how to say things to him. He focused on my husband without excluding me, and he was respectful of both of us. Everyone left feeling better.
The first time went horribly. By the end of the session, I was leaning so far away from him I was likely to topple off the couch. I'm not sure if it's because this was *my* therapist, although that may have played a part. I swore never to do it again.
And this is my therapy, and my therapist. I don't think I'd take kindly to any interference or stepping on those facts.
But every situation and every relationship is different. You say that you think your family needs therapy, and that you think your husband needs to be there. Do you think that you have enough detachment from this therapist to feel good about it? Do you think your husband will feel like this therapist is your family therapist rather than your therapist?
I don't know that it's a question with only one answer.
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