Posted by Dinah on April 1, 2007, at 10:26:00
In reply to Am I only 1 who think S.injury not so bad?*trigger, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 31, 2007, at 21:14:54
I argue that viewpoint all the time. That of all my disfunctional coping skills, this one is probably the least harmful. Spending brings me more long term grief.
But I suppose the idea is to find coping skills that don't harm at all, yet work as well. I wish I could find them. I fall asleep, yet that has consequences as well.
The thing that brought me up cold was when my son did something that would be quite normal for a four year old, but that he should have outgrown by the time he did it. It made me so sad that he felt that bad. I drew him into a hug and told him that I love him so much that I don't want anyone to ever hurt him - not even himself. And I told him I was so sorry he felt so bad. And I asked him if there weren't things he and I could figure out to do instead.
I realized that I'd never want him to know I self injured, and it gave me an insight into how people who care about me must feel.
I can't say I never do it, but it made me understand a bit better.
poster:Dinah
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