Posted by Daisym on March 28, 2007, at 12:50:26
In reply to Oh and..., posted by Dinah on March 27, 2007, at 18:03:05
I think this is a hard thing for many people, to accept as gracefully as we give. So many of us wait for the shoe to drop -- we believe there must be a reason that someone is "just" being nice to us. In fact, my best friends and I have an agreement that we won't be "nice" to each other, unless someone is seriously in trouble or dying. The sarcasm and insults stay in place through almost everything. Sounds weird but it is our way of letting the other person know that we believe they will make it through...
I'm currently in a huge dilema with my therapist about showing him the happy, competent parts of me. It is hard not to believe if he sees these things that he will expect me to be that way always. Or he will like me better like this. But I also want him to see these things and know that I'm not a complete mess 24/7.
It's about balance, isn't it? I'm glad your therapist answered you the way he did. I hope, also, that he doesn't feel weird about being nice. You deserve it. :)
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