Posted by muffled on February 4, 2007, at 21:42:40
In reply to Re: I think......and thanks-Looooooooooooooong » muffled, posted by littleone on February 4, 2007, at 20:04:18
>Whoever invented the word “should” – well everything I want to say about him/her would be considered uncivil.
*YA! HA!
>I bet you’ve made big steps forward from how you used to be.
*yeah, I have. I have, I really have. Yeah i will do OK. We will prepare.
> I think that maybe as more of my parts become attached to my T, then maybe I’ll find it easier to hang on to him.*yeah, for me its that kid
> Another maybe could be that she give you a note that encourages you to talk to and comfort that part. I know you find it incredibly hard, but it’s just a thought I had. Another maybe is that if that kid needs things to stay fresh, she could just loan you something while she’s away and gets it back afterwards. Then if she loaned it to you again for her next trip it would feel fresher than if you kept it all that time. Just another thought I had.*Note is good. Kinda scared to ask for ? to take care of when she gone. Mebbe she think I too dependant?
> That sounds like something you’ll need to talk to her about at some stage. I find it really crazy making to try and guess/assume what my T is thinking/feeling. It’s always worked out better for me to ask him outright what he thinks/feels.
*EXACTLY!!!!
> That’s okay. Scared means you just have to go real slow. Denial is a great protection. It’s real hard to let go of our protections when we’re scared and feeling unsafe. I find that I cycle around back and forth between denial and believing. I think that’s pretty natural. And sometimes when that denial protection drops off again, you find you take a big step forward (like how I was just denying and then when I re-accepted the parts I could then write out the bad memory for my T – it’s like I clung to the denial because I was scared to take that step forward with the memory). Perhaps you’re clinging to the denial because you’re scared about stuff with your T going away?*I dunno, just get scared
> I haven’t heard the term wingnut for so long :). I guess you don’t have to like her feelings, you just have to acknowledge that she’s having them so they’re probably something that you’ll need to deal with at some stage (like how you don’t have to like taxes, but they’re there so you just deal with them). I’m not sure what exactly you mean by “weird feelings”. What feelings is that that she has?*Wingnut!!! :-) ROFL!!!
Her feelings are yucky, yucky, we don't do much feelings cept little ones only. That kid, we feel a bit and run, run, run. Too strong.> Well described. I know what you mean. You’ll get there. When you get stuck, your T will help show you where the next piece might go.
*Sigh. I get tired of this....
Thank you so much littleone, you are so kind to help me.
Muffled
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