Posted by finelinebob on January 11, 2007, at 0:08:10
In reply to Re: anyone here think some T's are the ONEs wi issues?, posted by Scentedgarden on January 10, 2007, at 5:34:03
Well, expanding on what one person mentioned, it's particularly true in classical, Freudian psychodynamic approaches to be going through analysis yourself.
I dated one of them once. Biggest mistake of my life, but I was manic when we met and for a few months after that so I thought it was all good. And I was just starting on meds and going through 2.5 years of hell looking for the right cocktail (HEY PDOCS! NOT EVERYONE HAS A PROBLEM WITH THEIR SEROTONIN LEVELS!!). After all of that, it was too late. Living together in NYC, we had become economically co-dependent. Even though I was paying 75% of the rent (at the start, I was employed full time and she was starting her PhD ... and I was manic ;^), that extra 25% she could kick in made a world of difference in the sort of apartment we could share. I can't believe real estate is worth 6 years of THAT sort of abuse....
She certainly had her issues. In my 44 years on this planet at this time, she is by far the most vindictive, nasty person I have ever known. The sicker I got, the more interested she became in our relationship ... well, that is until I started to clearly make some progress based on the work I did with my T -- with whom she was at ideological odds. Then the real her, something I had seen directed at others including her "friends", started getting directed at me.
You know how those in the medical profession are pretty much bound, ethically, to jump in and help in the face of a crisis? Well, here's an image for you: it took me about 10 hours to mostly walk the length of Manhattan starting from Broadway and Fulton at a little after 9am on 9/11/01 with all that was going on throughout the City. I make it home, she's at her computer, working on her dissertation. I ask if she was aware of what was happening, and she replies in a rather everyday sort of "oh yeah" and continued typing. Mind you, she'd been working as a "resident" in a very well-known psychoanalytic clinic in Manhattan for several years at this time. After a few more questions that just increased my sense of disbelief, I finally came out and asked her plainly: "Don't you think you have some responsibility as a mental health practitioner to see how you can volunteer, to help out?" Her response? "I have enough patients of my own already."
And she kept on typing out her dissertation all the time.
Analyst: analyze thyself!
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