Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 9, 2007, at 0:38:51
In reply to would this make him mad?, posted by Karolina on January 8, 2007, at 23:51:14
Hi...Could you maybe tell him using I statements something like "Sometimes I feel like I see you looking down my top AND it makes me feel _______ " Could you maybe say it when he does it like..."I just thought I saw you....." It's like Dr Bob talk IRL and may help in more than one way ..One he would not feel accused I would hope and two ....he would then know you have seen him do it and to stop or explain
Good luck
> I see my T Friday but it’s like I just want to be prepared for it or something. I know I’ve already mentioned all the intense staring stuff and comments he give that sometimes confuse me…but I think I want to discuss some of my feelings regarding those things – with him. In example, do you think telling him that I’ve caught him staring down at my chest before would make him mad and get defensive?
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> Because I don’t want him to be angry with me. I guess it’s just aggravating when he tries to say he feels neutral about everything, like he did last time. it’s like I almost want to ‘call him on it’, by pointing out ‘yea well then why do you stare at me (as well as my shoes, my chest, etc)??’ or is this a case of paranoia and we should instead talk about how I am over-paranoid around people? AHH IM SO FRUSTRATED!
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> I wish I wasn’t attracted to him.
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> I wish he wasn’t so attractive.
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> Sorry for bringing all of this up so much = (
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> -Karolina-
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