Posted by muffled on December 31, 2006, at 7:44:42
In reply to Pulling away and closing down, posted by annierose on December 30, 2006, at 13:41:31
> Over the week, I found something out about my therapist through a third party. It isn't scandalous or weird, but just sort of surprising in that it doesn't fit with the person I imagined my therapist to be in her real life. And it bothers me that it unnerves me.
*Well if its of any use to you, it would unnerve me too :(
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> When I think about all the times I have bashed this person, unsupported him, etc and all the while, she likes him.**Well, it might be useful to throw it about a bit w/T just to clarify it between you. And its OK to agree to disagree on stuff too.
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> I felt myself already pulling away in therapy prior to this discovery. I had let myself get as close as I was able to another human being and I don't like it.**Yeah, its totally scarey isn't it? My pattern is to expose a little, then pull away, come a little closer, expose a bit, pull away.....and so on. And I got to tell you the exposing was often not much, but enough to freak me and make me run away.
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> I have picked up the phone to cancel my appointment on Tuesday and hang up everytime. What am I going to say? And, I don't want her calling me back either. I know I should share with her what is bothering me, but it compromsises me.**Well I don't think its appropriate to end T abruptly. I think you need to dicuss why and when. And if its not workable, then mebbe you need a diff T?
I have an extreemly difficult time talking bout myself. I send faxes that say the stuff I can't say, then T reads then in session. Then we discuss it as best as I am able to.
Thats bout all I can think of myself.
Hope things get easier for you.
My T says T is NOT for wimps! And she is SO right.
Take care,
Muffled
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> I don't know what to do ... any suggestions?
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