Posted by happykat on December 1, 2006, at 12:06:29
In reply to Re: Disclosure of Transference to T » happykat, posted by Declan on November 30, 2006, at 21:22:17
Declan,
Thanks for responding.
>But you mean like 'I want to tell you that I love you?'<
Not exactly. I have maternal feelings and growing sense of dependence on my T and have at times found myself idealizing her. Although she has toppled off the pedestal I put her on enough times to know shes human.
I was unnerved when I found myself feeling twinges of jealousy while she was talking about her grown kids. The fact that I'm starting to feel emotionally attached to her also scares the h*ll out of me.
I fled therapy last month partly because of this but have never told her. Fortunately she let me return to therapy but things have been strained. I think she was pissed that I quit without notice or discussion. Not a cool thing to do.
Maybe it will help her understand why I quit if I tell her. I just feel embarrassed to admit that on some level I feel the need for her to be my mom.
I'm curious as to how other therapists have reacted when clients bring up these issues.
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