Posted by happykat on November 24, 2006, at 15:30:24
In reply to Re: What to do with termination? » Barna, posted by muffled on November 24, 2006, at 9:36:13
Definitely talk to your T before deciding to terminate. I decided to terminate last month and got the shocking "I can never have any contact with you" speech from my T and it was devastating. I didn't have another one lined up and have no friends/family that I can confide in so it was slightly disasterous. I went crawling back two weeks ago. I'm terribly attached but at the same time I'm angry with her so I'm going to have to either learn to talk these things out with her or find someone else.
Make sure before you quit that you find out what kind of specific contact she allows post termination. My T ran down a list of things including not even acknowledging or saying hi if we run into each other on the street. She said I can drop her a note every now and again if I want but not to expect a reply.
It's disconcerting to go from having a T who is all chummy to basically having her say have a nice life because the moment you walk out that door the relationship is over.
I've spent the last two days pouring over posts on termination, transference and boundaries. There are alot more rules regarding therapy than I ever imagined. Good Luck with your decision!
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