Posted by TherapyGirl on November 2, 2006, at 15:57:25
In reply to Re: Staring us in the face » TherapyGirl, posted by Daisym on November 2, 2006, at 15:04:42
I think it's not this hard if you had basic needs met as an infant/young child. For us, it's very hard.
I wish I had some answers for you. I've been at this for over 21 years and, as you know, I often still lose my mind over my relationship with my T. But in my saner moments, it's enough. It's enough that she's my T, it's enough that she knows how to help me be safe when I can't do it myself, it's enough that she knows all my secrets, it's enough that she's stuck by me the way no one else ever has. It doesn't mean I never want more, because I often do. But my goal is to one day have it be enough 100% of the time.
And I don't have to pay for it. She accepts the love I give her and she appreciates the woman I've grown to be. Maybe that's enough for her?
In the meantime, I have what I have and it's better than the alternative. It's scary to need someone that much; it's scary to be afraid that I won't have her one day. When we first started, she used to tell me I was going straight from the start of our relationship to the end of it and not even considering the middle part. She was right, as she usually is about these things. It's hard to appreciate the middle, but I do try.
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