Posted by Daisym on September 22, 2006, at 0:59:07
In reply to Re: Blame - Trigger, posted by alexandra_k on September 21, 2006, at 18:07:22
The basic fault in the "no blame" line of reasoning is that abuse is equal to a natural disaster. Almost as if, it was inevitable or unstoppable...God's will. By removing blame, it feels (just from where I sit)like "he couldn't help it" -- or something like that. I'm struggling to find the words to explain what I mean -- this isn't something that just "happened." He DID this -- and my reactions, normal or not, don't change that he DID this. He wasn't mentally incapacitated, he wasn't forced by anyone or anything...and it wasn't an accident. So perhaps...perhaps...another world, like accountable? But doesn't convey the negativity I want to convey about his choices.
There is no way to nuetralize these acts. They were horrible and terrifying. They should be remembered as such so that our collective outrage prevents this kind of abuse from continuing.
poster:Daisym
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