Posted by Jost on July 2, 2006, at 21:43:03
In reply to Re: Projective identification stands up/ recognize » Dinah, posted by Racer on July 2, 2006, at 12:16:39
The person doesn't have to accuse you of doing it-- they just have to treat you as if you're doing it-- and then, somehow, this evokes the very thing they thought you were doing.
Which, probably, is something bad-- which, it seems, they think or fear that they themselves do, except they think it by thinking that you're doing it.
Say, if someone is afraid they're not smart enough--they might treat you as if you're not very smart-- and then you'll do something like get tongue-tied, or flustered, or even angry, in a way that makes you feel kinda unsmart.
I can tell often how people are feeling pretty much right away-- but I think it's small flickerings of expression or the way they carry themselves or move that they and I are (or am) not aware of-- but energy would be more a metaphor for what it is, than the thing itself..
Jost
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