Posted by Jost on July 2, 2006, at 21:14:04
In reply to Re: hey everyone, posted by Karolina on July 2, 2006, at 1:53:57
This is just the first step in a process, Karolina-- an important one, but it could take time. It's impressive that you opened up, and stayed around--
When you said that he was reading "all about this"-- did you mean reading Pbabble, or reading about the subject in books? Like researching what to do and say? Was there anything other than the 20/20 remark? --
That remark sounds gauche, maybe uncomfortable--but he might have been signalling, in a way, that you're safe with him-- that is, he won't act on his feelings inappropriately (whatever they are), so you can talk more..There was a better way to say it, though--
And saying that he sees you as a daughter could have been another way of restating-- that he cares about you, is fond of you--but again, in a safe way. But, as you were saying, there might be lots of different elements in how he sees you. Over time, I'm sure you'll find clarification, as you discuss it. Esp. since the compliments aren't reassuring--- even if you like them, in a way.
When you hadn't posted, I was a bit concerned-- glad you were just busy--and that your fears weren't realized.
Jost
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