Posted by Tamar on June 22, 2006, at 18:03:50
In reply to Re: I failed again » Tamar, posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2006, at 11:46:40
> It does sound to me like you explained yourself well. Perhaps bringing your post to your T might help? From what you describe, it also sounds more like his failing rather than yours. Perhaps this is just an area that he's not comfortable with for whatever reason. Maybe he has issues of his own, maybe he doesn't feel competent, etc.
I think you’re right. And I don’t want to scare him or make him uncomfortable. But on the other hand I want him to know what his deal is. Maybe we’ll never be able to have the discussion I’d like to have, but I would prefer it to be a conscious decision rather than an unconscious avoidance.
> But please don't take this on as your failing. When a T doesn't "get" what a client is saying, it's the T's failing, not the clients, imo.
I can’t help trying to take some responsibility for it though. It feels as if the alternative is giving up. And he really is good. We’re just having a hard time at the moment. Sigh.
Thanks very much for the wise suggestions and for the support.
Tamar
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