Posted by pegasus on June 19, 2006, at 9:16:02
In reply to Re: Any CBT or DBT or other advice? » pegasus, posted by Dinah on June 18, 2006, at 13:59:08
Aw shucks, I'm glad y'all liked my little ritual. I'm not used to having people thing my ideas are good. (blushing)
Dinah, I don't know that it's necessary to come up with something generous to do with your figure. I was "lucky" in that my relationship ended with a lot of sadness, regret, and guilt, rather than anger. So my ritual was what I needed to do to "put down" my person. But, hey, if what you need to do is run him over, then I see nothing wrong with that. I would guess, though, that you might need something more like symbolically splitting him in two and flushing the hurtful parts, while internalizing the helpful parts.
And anyway, I think GG is right that the ritual has to come in it's own time. Might be a while before you know what will help you feel some resolution. BTW, I also agree with the ever-wise GG that forgiveness is not always necessary.
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