Posted by pegasus on June 18, 2006, at 13:40:23
In reply to Re: But we never do » Dinah, posted by happyflower on June 17, 2006, at 18:35:37
Wow, that is incredible that he rejected you for so long and now, after refusing to talk about what happened, wants to be able to be intimate with you. I just can't imagine how hard that must be for you. Even though he's not rejecting you in the same way now, his refusing to talk about it is a new form of rejecting you, or at least neglecting you. Which he's in no position to do right now if he wants to ask you for anything at all. Seriously, this guy shouldn't even ask you to pass the salt at this point without groveling to you first.
I agree with you that this man is in serious need of therapy. I know that if I were in your shoes, it would be a deal breaker for me. In fact, I see three deal breakers here: He needs to 1) acknowledge your reasonable needs and how he caused you pain, 2) get some much needed therapy, and 3) show you how he plans to help rebuild your relationship. He really owes you all three, or else he should get out of there and let you start living your life around something positive. Oh, and pay you for your pain and suffering and your sacrifices for his sorry *ss in the meantime. You deserve that and much more. You deserve someone who really cares about you, and respects your needs.
many hugs
peg
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