Posted by orchid on May 30, 2006, at 22:59:01
In reply to Dear Orchid, posted by orchid on May 30, 2006, at 22:46:04
And of course, I forgive you for your transference. I mean, you know practically everyone goes through it. And you just played your part in the process. And what better way to learn all that you have learnt rather than by going through it? It is only bad you got a T who was always too busy to help you through it fully and who could understand what you were going through. But that is not your fault. And you have a right to feel.
But I have to say kudos to you, because you have made such a tremendous effort in working your way out of it without the help of your T. Good job buddy. You always manage to go on. And that deserves lot of appreciation.
Please do not feel guilty about your transference and your husband. What you did, you only had to do to make your marriage stronger. You know you never could have been so open to your husband and never could have learnt to be so emotionally intimate if you hadn't learnt it in your therapy. It is sad though that you learnt it the hard way, but that wasn't your fault.
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