Posted by Tamar on May 30, 2006, at 4:58:21
In reply to Re: AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (***TRIGGER**, posted by Jost on May 29, 2006, at 23:27:40
I brought it up ten minutes into the session, after he'd asked about a few other things. And at that point he said he had forgotten. He actually admitted it.
I didn't expect him to bring it up. I didn't mind being the one to bring it up. But I'm so angry and hurt that he had actually forgotten.
My husband says it was foolish of him to admit that he'd forgotten; that he could have recovered by saying he was waiting for me to bring it up. I don't know... admitting he'd forgotten was honest, at least, and that's very important to me. But really I wish he hadn't forgotten in the first place.
And I think the reason I'm angry is that I've been struggling so much to try to do things his way (by accepting the boundaries and so on) and then he lets me down by failing to be prepared for a session that I'd flagged as particularly important.
So now I want to say to him, "F*ck the boundaries. F*ck doing things your way. Come for a walk with me and let me give the transference a kick up the *ss. Because if you're going to be allowed to forget that this is a professional relationship, then you can bl**dy well allow me to forget it for 45 minutes." Or something like that.
Grrr.....
Thanks everyone for your support.
poster:Tamar
thread:650213
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