Posted by annierose on May 10, 2006, at 18:43:50
In reply to Oh h*ll, posted by Dinah on May 10, 2006, at 14:10:12
I am so sorry this decision is filled with so much angst for you and your family.
I truly do know how much your T means to you --- the world. It's okay to let him go. That's part of love too. One day your son will be all grown up and declare that he is old enough to make choices on his own --- he'll go to college, maybe meet a nice girl, marry, etc. Even when we love someone so so so much, life continually evolves, for better or worse, and as humans, we adapt. And I know you are tired of adapting this past year or two. You have had your fair share of life changes.
I think if you and your husband decide to move, you will eventually try to find another therapist. And you'll be extremely careful in your choice. You may have to sit in some pretty bad waiting rooms and sift through a few until you find one that is just right. But I do believe, I truly do, with the right therapist, you can grieve this loss and all the others you have endured. And this new T will help you in new ways.
This decision is an adult one. As I said before, your son's job is to say he wants to stay. That's what kids do. Your job is to reassure him that you have considered his feelings, and you will help him adjust to the new home and new school and new friends (of course, that is if you do in fact move).
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